One recurring theme is a failure to accept that sometimes marriage does not work. Instead of these politicians and judges looking at how to keep families together, why not look at how to help families live separately without all the anger and the game playing and the loss of finances that damages all involved. Another oversight of these discussions is an over emphasis on the importance of the first marriage. What about second marriages? Henry VIII invented divorce so that people (well men then and well, actually just him) could marry more than once. Perhaps the first one did fail, the second one could be successful, and the marriage could last decades. There could be children of that marriage that go through life with two happy together parents, exactly what the government wants. Except divorce law penalises second marriages, it places children of first marriages higher than those of subsequent marriages. What damage does that do to society? Men are often left paying for the first wife for years, if not the rest of his life. (Murderers only get 25 years to pay for their mistake!!!) Also as we have no fault divorce, the first wife can get this no matter how her behaviour was in the marriage.