Your child Is Taken Into Care, By Social Services Or Are A Party In A Private Custody Case
Your child is taken into care, by social services. We have all done this and many are still doing so. Hard breaking old habits, but Like Edward Snowden has made clear, whether dealing with CIA or social services. Never speak to them, even if they do say you are not cooperating, so what?
Better than you opening your mouth and then they write anything they want about you and stating, you said it.
- Do everything you can to prevent court-appointed professionals from coming into your case, and resist if your lawyer appears to be making an ill-thought-through rote suggestion. The odds are far greater than not that the introduction of these people will exponentially increase your costs, complicate your case, and end up hurting your chances of prevailing. This includes seeking inappropriate supervised visitation.
His or her personality, or his “yelling” under circumstances in which there are no threats or real fear of harm does not constitute “abuse.
- Unless you and your lawyer both think that there’s a good chance that he or she is going to be criminally convicted of domestic battery or child sexual abuse, or you and your lawyer both are pretty sure that you have or will obtain evidence warranting the termination of his parental rights or at least the permanent cessation of all contact (rare),
Furthermore, do not ever let your lawyer attend any court hearing or conference without you, or make any agreements in your case without previously discussing the matter with you and giving you time to think about it and decide. (Unless you’re more sophisticated in these matters than the other side, that includes pressuring you to sign agreements at mediation too. If it’s such a great agreement, it will hold for a day or so.) Make sure your lawyer understands this and agrees. Do not cave to threats from your lawyer.
Better still represent yourself. Once you hire a lawyer he has the legal right to speak for you… this is why they say he is “representing” you.
Telling the other side what information you have and what you know, and otherwise disclosing your plans.
- Do not take advice from superficial hastily-written articles posted to the internet by lawyers, mental health professionals and “internet journalists” for marketing purposes. Many of these are posted to commercial directory and “magazine” websites that exist to sell advertising, and others are filler (sometimes mass produced) with “buzz words” and vague banalities for the law firm or mental health firm’s own website(s). These articles frequently are incomplete and self-serving (e.g. a family law website recommends custody evaluations; e.g. a psych’s website recommends therapy; a news magazine’s clueless article was written from a commercial press release.) Some are misleading or flat-out wrong. The “chat rooms” and comment pages on commercial websites also exist to add free bulk and content to the website and drive page views, increasing advertising revenue. Be careful.